Shaming

“No one wants to snuggle a skeleton”
“Real men want curves, only dogs go for bones”
“are you anorexic? ”
“Have you eaten today? ”
“You’re so skinny!!!”

In what universe is it okay to say these things?! Apparently this one. Because I have seen my Facebook blown up with these statements, and have even witnessed a stranger ask a friend of mine if she had eaten that day. Seriously.
Why do people automatically assume that if you are thin then you are happy with your body? The person you made that comment to could be struggling with an eating disorder, and you just justified it. Or maybe they’re super uncomfortable with how thin they are, and hate how they look in a swim suit, because their ribs show.
Moral of the story is you don’t know what these people are dealing with.
Whether you mean these things as compliments or not, everyone has a different story. And skinny girl shaming is as repulsive as fat girl shaming. If I were to walk up to an overweight girl and proclaim “you’re so fat!” I would be a pariah.
Stop putting down other people to feel good about yourself. Better yet: stop assigning your self worth to how you look. Is being too fat or too skinny really the defining factor of your life? Does your weight overpower your generosity, compassion, trustworthiness, honesty, intelligence, humor, and loyalty?

YOUR SIZE DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. DON’T DEFINE OTHER PEOPLE BY THEIRS.

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